Denyque And Husband Careem Mullings Have Separated
Jamaican singer Denyque has revealed that although she’s still married to her husband of five years, Careem Mullings, they are separated.
The Same Guy singer, who made the revelation on the most recent episode of Sim Soul Sessions, noted that she was not too eager to address the rumors of their split because of a desire to retain her peace and power.
“I feel like for a lot of my adult years just learning, figuring life out, taking bumps, falling, getting back up—I’ve given a lot of my power away and I feel like now is the time where I’m learning to hone it back in and pull it back in,” she explained. “I’m unlearning a lot and relearning so much more.”
Denyque said that she had high expectations going into marriage after five years of dating. But, the grass was not greener on the other side. In fact, she said the idea of marriage was an attempt not to disappoint her family.
“Honestly, I feel like I had a fairytale view in a sense…it was still rooted in reality, but it was still dreamy. What I will say is a lot of the things I wanted I realised I wanted them for other people,” she said.
“I realised I wanted a marriage because I saw my parents getting married and because I was their only child that was not yet married, so I wanted to give that to not just myself, but to them too. I didn’t wanna have kids out of wedlock so that was another thing I wanted to give to them too.”
Denyque wed Mullings, a promoter of popular events, on New Year’s Day at The Beach House in Hellshire in 2017. They share two children, Connor and Dylann.
She continued: “When I’m sitting down and I’m going back in and thinking about all these things and reflecting, I’m realising that a lot of my decisions yes, I made them, but they weren’t really my decisions. They weren’t my choices. They weren’t necessarily the things that I wanted deep down in my heart and they were rooted in that…just trying to be validated by the outside sources and now, on my journey, I’m realising more and more that the more you look for validation with them you’re never gonna find it within.”
“So you just have to reel that back in and really just set that precedence to step outside of yourself which is something that I’ve been doing for years.”
Adding that her healing process has been a long one, Denyque said an integral part of the journey has been introspection followed by accountability.
“Accountability doesn’t mean that I did anything wrong or somebody else did anything wrong; it just means that I’m recognising the part that I played. In doing that, I’m realising more and more how we instinctively and unconsciously play parts sometimes not just in our own good, but in our own bad too and really just looking into situations and saying, ‘OK, maybe I could’ve done this, maybe I could’ve done that…’”
Interestingly, the singer said things started to fall apart as soon as she dared to release one of her most notable songs to date.
“The situation that really started it for me was when I put out a song called Proud Wifey and it was not until I put out that song that I started hearing these rumours…oh, my partner is cheating on me, my husband is this my husband is that…is Denyque husband all over the news in just some scandalous, negative stuff and when I track back I’m like, ‘yo, a me cause dis enuh’ because before I put out that song, no rumours, nobody was saying anything. But, the minute this song dropped it was just like wow, what did I do?” she recalled.
Back in 2020, Denyque publicly denounced rumours of her husband cheating. One of the most obnoxious opinions during that era was that she forced Mullings to marry her. In hindsight, she says that was not her intention.
“I didn’t even see it as pressure, it was really just sitting down like Sim, hold on I did that though. Seeing all of these things happening around me and saying I feel like we’re going nowhere, wasting time, I’m not dating to just date. I’m not having children until we’re at that place, so, that was what that was. So, I really had to look into myself and say what were the steps that you took that made this what it is. It’s never just one person that’s wrong, no matter how you wanna just put it on somebody else. Even if they do deserve the entirety of the wrong, the other person does play a part whether good or bad,” Denyque said.
The songstress said she has learned a valuable lesson about self-love and validation, and ideally, she would love if all her individual achievements and qualities are celebrated by her partner.
“I wanna be somebody’s baby and I have no qualms with that! I love it. I love catering to my person, I love being a wife, I love being that person. I’m a natural nurturer; I like to take care of people but I need my partner to never forget that outside of being yours, I’m also this and that’s where the scales kinda tip.”
Denyque burst onto the music scene in 2008 with singles such as Make Me Believe You, Summer Love, Supergirl, and Juggling Hearts.
After getting married, she took a hiatus from the music business.
The singer returned in 2020, and has since been rocking a more confident look. Her last release was a collab with Rytikal called Knees. The official video has gained over 1.2 million views on YouTube.